But here's something to ponder on.
What am I supposed to do in my free time when my baby is asleep and I actually do have everything done?
Let's be blunt here.
It's probably the hardest part about staying at home. On top of that, I just moved to a new place and have NO friends out here. I don't have anyone I can call on the phone and talk to. The time difference is 2 hours ahead from where I used to live so I can't just assume they'll not be busy.
I have made the occasional call or text every so often but it's a lonely game we face, us moms.
We expect to do so much while the husbands away. When he does come home and sometimes relieves me so I can have a break I try to think of something to do so I can relax.
We're in no position for me to be going off alone and go sight seeing. Everything is about a half hour away from where we live so traveling is pointless. The main stuff in town is fast food joints and a grocery store so there's also no point going to those places unless I want to spend money.
I've tried walking outside but by the time I do that, it's so late that I'm endangering myself and that is what got me scolded by 3 different people for my stupidity.
I guess the main reason I"m posting this is that for some moms you can't help but feel this way. And it's okay. You're not alone. I'm 23 and a mormon in the south. The south isn't bad by any means, but were in the WORLD am I going to go and find people my age? Let alone someone that doesn't give me a weird look and rolls there eyes when I say I'm LDS/mormon?
How do i fix that?
Well for now all I can do is vent about it but I'm looking for a penpal to write to so that I can feel like I have someone to talk too. I talk to my husband of course but they'll fill in the gaps for the time he isn't here.
So all in all. Don't feel guilty because you are doing nothing wrong.
So all in all. Don't feel guilty because you are doing nothing wrong.
I totally hear you Julie. Have you thought about looking for a mommy & me swim class? It might be a fun place to make some friends with kids that you could do play-dates with. I was surprised to see the ones by us are only like $30 for a 2 week class. I wish I had the energy to do that right now. I fill my time reading instead.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't mind doing that but I don't have a car :P I could have someone take me but I'm not sure how they would feel about taking to another place ya know? i don't want them to feel like my taxi.
DeleteI fill my time right now by just finding tv shows or the occasional crochet project. I just fixed my flip flops. They have some plastic on them that always gives me blisters. So i crocheted on some yarn.